TopicStarter Posted October 14, 2021 Share Posted October 14, 2021 Popular culture has a saying, “Love is a drug.” I think there is some truth to that. Just like a drug that takes over your life, love addiction leaves you with an obsessive need to be with a partner. When I was younger, I was petrified at the thought of being alone. That led me to jump into new relationships as soon as the previous one ended, yet none of them gave me happiness. Loving someone deeply isn’t the issue. The problem arises when we are dependent on the love or person we love for feeling good. Here are a few things I did to overcome love addiction: #1 Acknowledge The Love Addiction: I didn’t want to admit that there was a problem because that would mean accepting the fact that I needed help. But when I finally faced my messy self, it was easier to get the help I needed. I took a pen and paper and wrote down the number of times I “fell in love” over the past few years. That's when it really hit me; there wasn’t a time in the past five years where I didn’t attach myself to someone obsessively. #2 Learn About Human Behavior: once I finally sat down and considered my patterns and habits, I was curious to learn more. Reading books and watching several human psychology lectures online helped me understand my condition. After gathering so many experiences from other love addicts, I realized what I needed to work on the most was my relationship with myself. #3 Get Comfortable With Being Alone: we have an intrinsic need to love and be loved. To add to that, popular media heavily fuels the idea of a partner who completes us or “The One” who saves us from our loneliness. This is how I felt too. I clung to my partner, forgetting all about my individual existence. If you are stuck in a pattern of constantly needing a romantic partner, maybe it’s time to be alone for a while. Stay single and rediscover the person you are outside of a love relationship. #4 Take Care Of Your Emotional Needs: being stuck in a pattern of forming one relationship after the other will leave you with no time to heal. When we are constantly thinking about another person, in this case, a lover, we tend to neglect our needs and well-being. That is why it is so important to take the time to care for your emotional health. Have you ever been addicted to love? What steps did you take to overcome it? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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