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  1. Since biblical times, sexual temptation has led to the downfall of many. Temptations are primarily meaningless and rule over your heart without reason. With the internet offering a great deal of anonymity to the users, it is no wonder that more people are victims of sexual temptation nowadays. What might seem like a harmless screen, in the beginning, may end up in a pornographic conquest. And remember, the more you engage, the more addicted and tempted you get. In extreme scenarios, people might even end up cheating on their partner without any intention of doing so- all because they could not resist getting sexually tempted. For thousands of years, adultery has led to rifts between people, and some have even waged wars and killed others because of it. In short, the failure to prevent yourself from getting sexually tempted can get you into a significant amount of trouble. But with the right efforts, you can both resist and control it. And I am here to tell you how! #1 Avoid pornography: Pornography surely helps you if you believe in self-pleasuring but it can also create unrealistic visions of temptation. Like any other fiction, a major part of it is make-believe. But sometimes, your brain fails to process this fact and starts imagining it to be real. And then, you might want to replicate a situation that might cause a considerable amount of disruption in your life. So, I would strongly suggest that you be wary about the media you consume. #2 Think about the consequences: Do not forget that all your actions have consequences, and there’s no way to avoid them. So, when you feel tempted towards another woman, think about how your wife would think of it. Are you willing to give up on a loving family just because you were briefly tempted by another woman? I don’t think so! It is best that you calculate your moves and consider the bad and good. Everyone gets tempted; it’s only human. But again, to be human is to also know how and when to resist. #3 Don’t put yourself in risky situations: One of the best ways to overcome a sexually tempting situation is to not be in one. Try to keep yourself away from the lures and the traps. Be it images or people, when you see yourself getting involved unwantedly, it is best to maintain some distance. If you feel strangely attracted to another person, try avoiding situations where you both might end up in the same room. Have you had to overcome sexual temptation? What steps did you take to get through?
  2. I have known passivity for a long time now, and it used to make me procrastinate for hours on end. However, there is a way out. Some friends had warned me about it before, but I would avoid anything that could lead to failure, which affected my productivity. There are times when you might also feel like doing nothing, and you end up living life half-heartedly. Projects and goals take a backseat, and you are not certain about any of your plans. Now that you are reading this, I am sure you want to make a change. Read on to understand the different ways that could help out in the long run. #1 Understanding your behavior: First of all, you have to understand your behavior. For example, you may feel down from colleagues putting you down too often, or there may be a lack of encouragement from the near and dear ones. On the other hand, there may not be a definite cause at all, and you may still end up procrastinating throughout the day. Whatever the reason is, find it and write it out. Then see if those reasons are actually valid. If not, then it is time to make a change. #2 Learning to stand up for yourself: One of the top ways to overcome passivity is to be more assertive in a respectful manner. You need to stand up for yourself anytime the situation arises. Also, ensure that your opinion or thought is counted. To do that, you will need to be more aware of what is happening around you, which will also bring down the long periods of procrastination. #3 Maintaining a journal: Now, this is not a one-day process, and you will often find yourself feeling lazy or wanting to fall back. Hence, maintain a journal where you can note down everything that comes to your mind. List down your thoughts and plans every day and keep track of your long-term goal. Once you have it in front of your eyes, try making small changes every day to achieve that. #4 Constant motivation: Try not to depend on another person to feel motivated. Instead, invest in being your own well-wisher and keep a focus on future goals. However, do not set unrealistic goals, as that could bring down your confidence further. Take tiny steps to achieve something that is possible, and you will slowly see a change in yourself. Has passivity been something you have had to overcome? What steps did you take to get better at being less passive?
  3. Today, most offices hire from different cultures around the world, and language barriers can occur at any time. This could lead to a lot of miscommunication! However, if you take the right steps, you will surely be able to overcome language barriers in the workplace. I would always recommend that you practice community building to create a happy and friendly atmosphere in the office. If people like each other in general, then half your problems are solved. Encourage team-building activities and exploring new cultures. Also, pay attention to the following steps where I have spoken about the other ways that can help. #1 Get someone to translate: While I believe that arranging for language classes would be a better idea, it may not always be possible. First of all the work pressure might be too much or employees may simply not be interested. However, having a translator in the office could help out a lot. They could help in translating what others say, and you can try to remember the key phrases that other members use in their own language. With time, interaction, and attention, you will start understanding some of the simple and regular phrases that others usually say. #2 Talk in easy language: Your office might have people whose first language is not English. However, they might understand English to a certain extent, and hence, you can use some easy phrases and words. If you use too many idioms, they might not be able to understand your words. Also, when it comes to sending official mails, ask people from other cultures to mention the key points only. They do not need to write a lot as that increases the chances of going wrong with the grammar or words. #3 Prevent using gestures: When an office has a mixed group, it is best to be mindful of the hand gestures that you do, as that might be insulting. While a certain kind of hand wave works for people from America, the same action might be considered insulting to an employee from Japan. #4 Use more pictures to explain: Everybody understands images and pictures, and hence, using graphs and pictures may help overcome a language barrier. If you have to conduct a lot of meetings to discuss important issues, try using as many visuals as possible. Also, keep an interpreter or a translator by your side who can help in translating parts that are difficult to understand. Have you had to overcome language barriers in the workplace? What steps did you take to overcome this?
  4. A majority of people do not have a liking for bugs, but experiencing fear is quite different. And then, there are people with entomophobia. Sometimes, as kids, you learn from other people to be scared of bugs. And even as you grow up, this fear does not get eliminated completely. In the worst-case scenario, this feeling only strengthens over time and gets more challenging to get over. If the mere thought of a bug evokes images of creepy crawlers, you need to understand that your problem might be more deep-seated. While other people may see this as irrational, the fear for you is as real as it gets. You might even find family and friends teasing you about situations like these. But, trust me, embarrassment only enhances the issue and does not solve it. In order to overcome this fear of bugs, it is essential that you handle it more effectively. And I am here to suggest a few ways which would help you deal with it better. #1 Identifying your fears: To know what it is that scares you about bugs is half the battle won. The more you know where this fear stems from, the better you would be able to overcome it. You can maintain a journal to note what makes you fear insects the most. If you can locate how this fear started, then it would be easier for you to grasp the intensity of the problem and reach its roots. #2 Take help from an entomologist: Entomologists can be of great help to understand the anatomy of bugs. They study bugs and can help you better understand how they live and function. And if you are in luck, you can even see some dead fossilised bugs in their collection. And to see something that scares you so closely might help you to effectively deal with the fear. This way, you can inspect the bugs up-close without fearing that they will harm you. #3 Think positively: Your fear of bugs stems from the belief that they are scary beings. So, you experience extreme negative feelings when they are around you. And if you can successfully replace these negative emotions with more positive ones, there’s a good chance that you would be able to combat this fear. There’s no doubt that this fear is irrational, but when you experience it, there’s nothing that feels more real. But you need to understand that only a very few of them actually bite. And unless you try to hurt them, they are not going to return the favor! Do you have a fear of bugs? What steps did you take to overcome it?
  5. Have you ever thought about what makes you feel intimidated? In my case, I first felt the real blows of intimidation in my senior year at high school. It seemed that everyone was ready to embrace the transition to college, but I failed to catch up with them. There were several times when the heavy feeling of intimidation took over me, and all I wanted was to remain at home. However, I soon realized that if I let the dread take over my life, I wouldn't be able to go forward with anything. So, I decided to push aside the thoughts of feeling intimidated by my peers and continued with school. But, I am aware that it might not be the easiest thing to achieve, especially when you feel weighed by your responsibilities. Hence, here are a few tips to help you overcome intimidation: #1 Stop comparing yourself with others: if you have the unhealthy habit of comparing yourself with others, then it's time to put an end to it. Instead, take a paper and write down the things that intimidate you, then ask yourself if they're true. Find your strengths and start challenging the negative thoughts to avoid feeling intimidated. #2 Find your confidence: this may sound like a cliché, but believe me when I say that finding my confidence was the foremost thing that helped me get over intimidation. All I did was practice saying the phrase “I am powerful and confident” over and over again. Just remember to find a way that enables you to accept your confidence. #3 Interact with others who feel the same: while dealing with the intimidation issues, I learned that you're never the only one. Open up to your friends or find a community where you can meet others who deal with similar problems. Along with letting you humanize the situation, it also lets you gain a fresh perspective on the challenges of intimidation. #4 Weed out toxic people: it may sound harsh, but I truly believe that some people will try to drag you down. So, identify those people and let them go from your life. At the same time, it's also necessary to work on friendships that might have been disturbed by your issues with intimidation. #5 Seek help: at times, the only thing you can do to stop these feelings is to find help, and you shouldn't feel ashamed of it. So, consider meeting a counselor or a life coach to fight the evil thoughts of intimidation. Intimidation is a fear a lot of have felt. What steps did you take to overcome being intimidated?
  6. First of all, it's commendable for you to take a step towards putting an end to sinful thoughts. I think addressing what isn't right is the first stage of moving on from all unwanted thoughts. However, it's often quite hard to let go of sinful thoughts, especially now, when we have unlimited access to the internet. I have come across people who justify their thoughts and acts by saying that it's a natural human instinct. Even though I agree that these thoughts may arise once in a while, the real problems start when we desire to act on them. And, it can easily lead to irreversible actions like immorality and cheating on a spouse. Would you really want to feel ashamed in front of your close friends because of acting on a sinful thought? I guess not. So, it's essential to curb these feelings or notions at the right time. I know that it's kind of confusing and frustrating. So, to make it a bit easier, here are some of my tips to overcome sinful thoughts: #1 Avoid temptations: sinful thoughts are often linked to certain triggers. So, find out the things that may lead to those unwanted thoughts and curb them as soon as possible. If it's a person, avoid meeting them, and if there's an utmost necessity, meet at a public place. #2 Keep your mind engaged: the proverb "an idle mind is the devil's workshop" perfectly describes why sinful thoughts can creep into our minds. Adopting a new hobby like reading or engaging in meditation during spare time may help your mind from wandering to unwanted thoughts. I have also seen people distancing themselves from loved ones when they give into harmful thoughts. To prevent that from happening, use your idle time to engage with your family and friends. #3 Establish a relationship of accountability: a loving environment gives birth to fruitful ideas about putting an end to unwanted feelings. So, find a close confidant in your spouse or a close friend and tell them about the negative or sinful thoughts. Keep in touch with them about your progress, and let them know if the thoughts come back. #4 Seek professional therapy: let's be honest- there are times when we are deep into the problem, and no end is visible. To avoid being in such a situation for too long, seek help from a licensed counselor to figure things out. There’s also the option of couple’s therapy if you have shared the thoughts with your spouse. Have you ever had to overcome sinful thoughts? What steps did you take to overcome them?
  7. Popular culture has a saying, “Love is a drug.” I think there is some truth to that. Just like a drug that takes over your life, love addiction leaves you with an obsessive need to be with a partner. When I was younger, I was petrified at the thought of being alone. That led me to jump into new relationships as soon as the previous one ended, yet none of them gave me happiness. Loving someone deeply isn’t the issue. The problem arises when we are dependent on the love or person we love for feeling good. Here are a few things I did to overcome love addiction: #1 Acknowledge The Love Addiction: I didn’t want to admit that there was a problem because that would mean accepting the fact that I needed help. But when I finally faced my messy self, it was easier to get the help I needed. I took a pen and paper and wrote down the number of times I “fell in love” over the past few years. That's when it really hit me; there wasn’t a time in the past five years where I didn’t attach myself to someone obsessively. #2 Learn About Human Behavior: once I finally sat down and considered my patterns and habits, I was curious to learn more. Reading books and watching several human psychology lectures online helped me understand my condition. After gathering so many experiences from other love addicts, I realized what I needed to work on the most was my relationship with myself. #3 Get Comfortable With Being Alone: we have an intrinsic need to love and be loved. To add to that, popular media heavily fuels the idea of a partner who completes us or “The One” who saves us from our loneliness. This is how I felt too. I clung to my partner, forgetting all about my individual existence. If you are stuck in a pattern of constantly needing a romantic partner, maybe it’s time to be alone for a while. Stay single and rediscover the person you are outside of a love relationship. #4 Take Care Of Your Emotional Needs: being stuck in a pattern of forming one relationship after the other will leave you with no time to heal. When we are constantly thinking about another person, in this case, a lover, we tend to neglect our needs and well-being. That is why it is so important to take the time to care for your emotional health. Have you ever been addicted to love? What steps did you take to overcome it?
  8. Do you have normal blood pressure at home, and it suddenly goes high when you visit the doctor? You might have what is called the “white coat syndrome.” There are many people like you who, on getting their blood pressure checked by doctors, experience hypertension. In situations like this, your heart will start to race without any particular reason. And because of this, your blood pressure will read higher than normal. When you are in the doctor’s office, the environment may make you feel tense and anxious, which might have a direct impact on the blood pressure. Hence, you won’t be able to get the correct reading, and won’t get to know the right condition of your heart. Facing these kinds of problems may be a reflection of future issues that you might suffer from. Unless taken care of, anxieties like these may even turn chronic. So, today, I am going to talk about a few ways in which you can overcome the fear of taking blood pressure. #1 Take a leak: When you try testing your blood pressure with a full bladder, the chances are that the reading will be high. This is because a full bladder prevents you from completely relaxing. So, I would always suggest that you visit the bathroom at least once before getting your blood pressure checked. #2 Request for a quiet room: The general rush in the hospital might cause anxiety, but you need to relax before your blood pressure is measured. For this, you can request the hospital staff to assign a quiet room where you can sit to calm the nerves. The lesser the noise and the fewer people present in the room, the more confident you will feel. #3 Go for a walk: If you cannot calm yourself down, it is best to take a short walk outside. Being amidst nature works great when it comes to calming down the nerves. Rhythmic walking reduces the stress response of the body and normalizes your blood pressure. While walking, you can even practice some easy breathing techniques to calm yourself down further. Physical activities like these divert your mind from the fear you might be experiencing. And lastly, do not forget to have a glass of water before you go in for the check. This helps to flush down the excess sodium in your blood that often results in high blood pressure readings. Have you had a fear of taking your blood pressure? What steps did you take to overcome it?
  9. I bet there isn’t a single adult in the world who hasn’t been humiliated. It is a part of our lives, and hence we must learn to deal with it. However, dealing with humiliation may not be all that simple every time because it can be intensely painful, depressing, and can degrade the person’s dignity. Understand that there is no switch that you can flick to overcome humiliation; it is a process and not something that can be done in a matter of hours. But, remember that it’s absolutely normal and that there are people who have had experiences similar to or even worse than yours. Hence, keep your chin up and follow this post to learn how to overcome humiliation. #1 Never react with anger: reacting with anger is the last thing that you would want to do, as it doesn’t help in any way. Keep in mind that when a person humiliates you, they are humiliating themselves. Believe it or not, people look down upon those who humiliate others in public, as it is a highly shameful act. So, I would strongly recommend you not to react angrily, as it will prevent you from stooping down to the other person’s level. #2 Take responsibility: even though humiliation is emotionally painful and degrading, you should take responsibility for what you have done. Don’t try to deny responsibility and blame others for what you have done. This way, you will turn out to be a better and stronger person in the future. If required, ask forgiveness for your mistakes, don’t think too much about it, and simply treat it like an error made at work which caused a lot of problems. #3 Forgive yourself: one of the best ways of overcoming humiliation is by forgiving yourself whenever you mess things up. I feel that it is important to feel a little bad in order to find insights into the problem. However, don’t let the feelings of humiliation consume you to the point where you get depressed. You must realize that you are only a human and that it is okay to mess up sometimes. #4 Let it go: if the humiliation is bothering you and causing you agony, use meditation and other mindfulness techniques to get rid of it. If you hold onto grudges and negative emotions, you will be the one that suffers, so let it go and focus on what’s next. Have you struggled with overcoming humiliation? What steps did you take to help yourself through?
  10. In this day and age, introverts are often looked down upon, as people have this preconceived notion that they lack leadership and social skills. But, being an introvert is fine because neither introverts nor extroverts are necessarily better than the other, as both have their distinctive strengths and weaknesses. That said, if introversion is preventing you from doing the essential tasks of life or achieving business-oriented objectives, then it’s something that you must try and overcome. Don’t get me wrong, some of the most prominent faces on the Earth were wallflowers, including Abraham Lincoln, Rosa Parks, and Albert Einstein. But then again, these people were one in a billion and not your average Joe next door. Isolation, anxiety, depression, there are a ton of things that introversion can lead to, preventing you from achieving success. That’s why you must acknowledge it and take a few steps to overcome introversion to a point where it doesn’t hinder your goals. Here are a few steps that you can follow to overcome introversion: #1 Push yourself: one of the most effective ways to overcome introversion is by learning to push yourself. What I mean by this is that wallflowers should get out of their comfort zones and constantly push themselves into talks or circumstances that make them uncomfortable and vulnerable. I know that it is not all that simple, but you should gather the courage to do so, as it will help you overcome introversion. #2 Stop overanalyzing: one of the main reasons why introverts can’t communicate their feelings and ideas to others is because they tend to process things internally. Not only does it make them hard to read, but it also leaves their friends and colleagues feeling uncomfortable around them. Hence, I strongly advise against over-analyzing little things in your head; instead, be frank with your friends and colleagues. #3 Get out of your head: believe it not, introversion often stems from being overly anxious about what others might think. So, instead of thinking about your self-consciousness, turn your feelings and attention towards others. Remember that it is all in your head and that whatever you are thinking may not even be remotely accurate. #4 Don’t label yourself as an introvert: to overcome introversion, you must avoid labeling yourself as an introvert. Labeling brings a lot of baggage which is just not your truth. Look on the brighter side and find things that are special about you, and work on them. Have you had to overcome introversion? What steps did you take to help yourself through this obstacle?
  11. Imagine being in a relationship and getting frustrated way too often with your partner. Yes, it can happen due to a number of reasons. Frustration can easily occur if you are not satisfied with how things are and you want them to change. You might get annoyed with some of your moves, or there could be too many fights happening in the relationship. And here are some ways to help in dealing with this issue. #1 Think before entering into a relationship: Sit down and think about why you need to be in a relationship. I feel that many people choose to enter into one just because of peer pressure. Now I understand it can get frustrating to watch other friends in happy relationships while you are still struggling to find someone. However, settling for anybody you meet would not really fill that void. Instead, you might develop unwanted emotions and dependency, which can again lead to frustration. #2 Find new areas of interest: It is time to shift your focus to other areas that you like. This could be a new activity that you are passionate about, or you could invest in a job and career. Even if you’re in a relationship, spending too much time thinking about it can get you annoyed. For example, your partner might have a separate life with friends which you are not a part of, and that might be bothering. If you can find your own areas of interest, then the relationship can blossom better. #3 Maintain a journal: Every time you feel frustrated write down your feelings in a journal instead of lashing out. Be specific about what you feel, and that should help in unburdening. Once all your feelings have been poured out, you will feel much lighter, and this could also prevent unnecessary fights. #4 Interact with a friend: I always believe that a close friend can help you out in some cases. Have a conversation with someone who you can confide in, and talk to them about your issues and the anger. If you have problems with handling anger, they would already know about it, and they can suggest effective ways to deal with it. The shoulder that they will lend in such times will be of great help. This would also help you accept reality better, and you can then choose how to deal with it. We have all been frustrated in love at one point. What steps did you take to overcome these frustrations?
  12. A fetish is a sexual disorder that many people deal with across the world, and if you have one, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. In medical terms, it is referred to as paraphilia, an intense sexual interest in atypical situations and objects. Moreover, it’s quite common that most people who enjoy having sex have some fetish. However, there is a massive difference between people who like to use objects to enhance their sexual experience and those who can’t get aroused without certain materials. If you belong to the latter category, then maybe it is time to reassess your situation. Sexual fetishes can lead to a slew of things, including lack of libido, depression, breakups, and even sexual violence, thereby wrecking your life. This is why you should acknowledge it and take steps to overcome it. Here are a few tips that you can follow to overcome a fetish. #1 Access the severity of the fetish: as I mentioned before, it is a very common thing. Many couples engage in sexual fetishes to add spice to their sex life by having sex in unconventional manners by being tied, gagged, or blindfolded. That said, if it involves too much aggression, then it’s time to assess the extent of the fetish. Also, you should never ask your partner to engage in activities that they are not comfortable with. #2 Consider sex therapy: now, I know that it sounds like overkill, but trust me, it is one of the most effective ways of overcoming a fetish. A therapist specializing in paraphilia can ensure a non-judgmental and knowledgeable approach to psychotherapy. They will teach you mindfulness and other techniques that will help you overcome the fetish. So, don’t shy away from consulting a sex therapist. #3 Don’t objectify your partner: the love between you and your partner is stronger than any sexual fetish. Hence, you should focus on making love to them instead of objectifying them and indulging in fetishes to fulfill your sexual fantasies. If you truly love your partner, the relationship should work without the involvement of weird activities in bed. #4 Lower porn consumption: one of the main reasons that give rise to fetishes is that people want to mimic the stuff they see in porn. So, if you are among them, I highly recommend lowering porn consumption. Understand that porn has no connection to reality; whatever fetishes and weird fantasies you see in porn are performed by professional actors. Have you had to overcome a fetish? What steps did you take to correct it?
  13. Neediness is a feeling that a lot of people experience in this modern-day and age. With the advancement of technology, people hardly make time to get out of their phones to be with their loved ones. As such, more and more people feel insecure about themselves and fail to seek emotional attachment from their better halves. However, when the terrors of this feeling consume people, they often feel out of control and do things that they are not supposed to. Not only does it lead them to cross boundaries in their relationships, but it also affects their mental health. Depression, self-harm, substance abuse, crime - there are a ton of things that feelings of neediness can lead to, messing up your future. That’s why you should acknowledge the demons associated with this feeling and start taking steps to overcome it. Here’s my advice on how you can overcome neediness. #1 Work on improving yourself: one of the main reasons you are needy is that you lack self-love. So, instead of seeking love and validation from your partner all the time, focus on working on yourself. Learn and develop skills that will take you further in life while motivating your partner to do the same. Not only will it make you better people, but also a loving couple. #2 Create space for your needs: accepting your needs is a very effective way of overcoming neediness. Never be afraid of your needs, as it only makes things worse, thereby leading you to find ways to disguise or hide them. Doing so not only makes it harder for others to understand your needs but also tougher to satisfy them. Hence, make room for your needs and start taking them seriously, as it will drastically change your manner of expression. #3 Try being emotionally mindful: instead of acting on your needs, try writing about the feelings associated with those needs in a journal. Don’t try to get rid of them; instead, understand them. It will help you realize and convey the needs better; ultimately, allowing you to overcome them. #4 Get connected: believe it or not, neediness is nothing but blindly seeking things from your partner that you are not even sure of. According to studies, healthy dependency is possible only when two people are connected and value their relationships. Therefore, connect with your partner and be clear and direct in your wants. Is neediness something you have had to overcome? What steps were helpful to you in overcoming this obstacle?
  14. As we live in a highly materialistic world, it is only natural to want things that would make your life better. So, if you are greedy, relax; you are not alone. In fact, I would go as far as to say that there is nothing wrong with being a little greedy. To achieve something in life, you need to have the desire, or greed (if you want to call it that). It motivates you to cross your comfort zone and strive hard to bring success. However, the problem lies when greed is fueled by an endless desire to acquire more and more without bearing in mind the needs of others. Deception, corruption, cheating, there are many things that excessive greed can lead to, creating turmoil in your life. That’s why you must acknowledge your feeling of greed and take serious steps to overcome it. Here are a few tips that you can follow to overcome greed: #1 Don’t underestimate the power of this bad habit: one of the most effective ways of overcoming greed is by acknowledging that you have a problem. Many greedy people go on about their lives without even realizing the harm they cause others by fulfilling their own desires. So, congrats! You are not one of them; you are already on the path to recovery. #2 Consider sharing: even if it sounds a little childish, trust me, it works a great deal. If you have a lot of money, consider donating some of it to charity. A little donation every now and then wouldn’t hurt; in fact, it will give you peace of mind. For instance, distribute your old clothes and blankets to the homeless people on the streets. Keep in mind that you have more than enough to sustain your life, whereas they are struggling to survive. #3 Don’t let money define your personality: just because you have money doesn’t mean you need to spend it on buying unnecessary things to impress others. You should be able to make an impression with your confidence and personality without relying on expensive materials. The more you let money define your personality, the greedier you become. #4 Be happy with what you have: lastly, you should be content with what you have. Count your blessings, work hard to achieve your goals, and provide a good life for your family, but never let greed get in the way. Have you ever had to overcome greed? What steps did you take to help?
  15. In modern times, seeing people avoid long-term relationships is not a surprise anymore. And this often stems from a fear of commitment. The term “commitment-phobic” is used very loosely these days, but it has deeper connotations. Simply defined, commitment involves dedicating yourself to someone for a considerable period of time, be it for a job, a relationship or a goal. And some people stutter emotionally when it comes to committing themselves to a relationship. Honestly, things might seem scary; you might be scared that your feelings will be hurt. And sometimes, because of this, people naturally pull away. For many, the idea of settling down seems terrifying. It might so happen that you fall for someone but still face the fear of committing to them. And this might have a detrimental impact on your relationship. If you are scared of dating this one person for the rest of your life, it might be because of commitment phobia. In that case, keep reading to know how to get over your fear of commitment. #1 Look at healthy relationships: It often happens that you are surrounded by people who are in complicated relationships. This gives you a skewed understanding of what a relationship involves, and you end up developing negative feelings about it. If someone in your family got divorced, feeling like this gets even more ingrained and has a long-term impact on how you look at relationships. So, it is best that you surround yourself with people who have had successful relationships. #2 Practice empathy: Commitment means that you hold on to the other person even when things get a little difficult. It means that you help yourself and the other person grow in the process and do not give up the moment there is a crisis. In short, you try to be empathetic. It requires a lot of emotional intelligence to understand how you both can enhance each other’s spiritual growth. And for this, you need to cultivate patience and empathy. #3 Journaling: The most important step in overcoming a fear is to first identify it. It is impossible to get over commitment phobia unless you address the reasons causing it. And for this purpose, it is essential that you have an internal conversation with yourself. Journaling might be of great help in this regard. This way, you can pour out your emotions on the pages and be able to express more clearly about where the problem lies. Have you had a fear of commitment? What steps did you take to help yourself overcome it?
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