TopicStarter Posted September 27, 2021 Share Posted September 27, 2021 To begin with, who doesn’t long for a “happily ever after” kind of love? Of course, everyone! Candlelight dinners, late nights heart-to-heart conversations, holding hands, and caring for each other, everything seems to be perfect until the word commitment walks in. If you find it difficult to commit to a particular person, then you most likely suffer from commitment issues. The commitment phobia isn’t something unreal. Abusive relationships, failed marriages, disloyal exes, anything can lead to commitment phobia. Fear isn’t a bad thing. If you fear snakes, spiders, or scorpions and run away from them, you’re doing the right thing. But, running away from love, intimacy, and emotional vulnerability is a foolish thing! It’s time you sit down with your fears. The road to overcoming commitment issues isn’t an easy ride. And this is why I say it is better to acknowledge the fact that you’re going through commitment issues rather than denying them. Instead of running away from the truth, sit and make peace with your feelings. Here’s my advice on how to overcome commitment issues: #1 Figure out if you really want a relationship: Relationship anxiety is a real thing. And if you’re dating someone, think of the reasons why you’re dating them. Ask yourself whether you’re dating for a “happily ever after” kind of thing or is it just another fling. If it’s just another fling, I suggest you stop right away. But, if you think you’ve found that perfect person, then get over all the fears and take the plunge. Jump into the rabbit hole and explore the depths of love. #2 Communicate honestly with your partner: Talk, talk and talk - this is what I keep telling people. Your partner isn’t capable of reading minds, and they don’t know the battle and conflicts going on within you. This is why you must be honest with them. Let them know your thoughts and feelings and, if possible, communicate to them your fears. If you have a dark past or have ever been in an abusive relationship, share with them. It will help them to understand you better. #3 Wipe out the past and forget the future: This is my favorite mantra in life. When thinking about life, wipe out the past from your head, and don’t even think about the future. And, when it comes to people you love and care about, don’t let your dark past or blank future meddle with your present. Take one day at a time, and just like that, you’ll conquer everything. Have you had commitment issues? What steps did you take to overcome them? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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