What do you consider to be cheating?

[Stacey]

I have been told I am too high-maintenance and too much of a prude because of this but for me, cheating isn't just a physical action, it can be a mental one. You can emotionally cheat with someone else and you can also cheat with your eyes. To me, pornography is cheating and I can't be with someone who uses it. This is no judgment to people who do, it is just a personal preference for me and who I am in a relationship with. 

What do you consider to be cheating? 

[James]

To me the line that I have drawn is cheating would be hanging out with someone that is not your spouse in an intimate manner. I think if my wife went over to another mans house for dinner that would be strange and I would not like the idea of that. 

So I guess that is where it begins for me. I feel like that is crossing the line into bad ideas. 

[Mila]

Any sense of romance, sexual interest in another woman can lead to physical cheating so it is best to minimize it and I understand why many women out there would consider porn as cheating. I don't because there is not personality there, it is no different than watching a character in a film. For me, the person has to be real and someone that can actually have interactions with my partner. 

[Brenden]

On 5/28/2021 at 8:36 PM, Stacey said:

I have been told I am too high-maintenance and too much of a prude because of this but for me, cheating isn't just a physical action, it can be a mental one. You can emotionally cheat with someone else and you can also cheat with your eyes. To me, pornography is cheating and I can't be with someone who uses it. This is no judgment to people who do, it is just a personal preference for me and who I am in a relationship with. 

What do you consider to be cheating? 

I think when it comes to "emotionally" cheating, I kind of disagree on that. I understand if your significant other is watching porn, but I feel that is a big sign in a marriage that something is wrong. Maybe instead, if they are viewing porn, speak to them about it, ask them why they're viewing porn instead of being intimate with their bf or gf. 

I understand if someone cheats physically with another person, but viewing pornographic content, to me, is more of an issue with the marriage. Maybe that person isn't getting enough from the relationship. There are many factors where a person will watch porn instead. The best bet, is to speak with that person and get down to why he/she is watching porn instead. 

I consider cheating to be when someone's significant other decides to kiss or sleep with someone else. As well as talking/texting constantly. I don't see porn as an issue, unless it's to a point where neither are sleeping together. 

[Stacey]

On 6/2/2021 at 12:36 PM, Brenden said:

I think when it comes to "emotionally" cheating, I kind of disagree on that. I understand if your significant other is watching porn, but I feel that is a big sign in a marriage that something is wrong. Maybe instead, if they are viewing porn, speak to them about it, ask them why they're viewing porn instead of being intimate with their bf or gf. 

I understand if someone cheats physically with another person, but viewing pornographic content, to me, is more of an issue with the marriage. Maybe that person isn't getting enough from the relationship. There are many factors where a person will watch porn instead. The best bet, is to speak with that person and get down to why he/she is watching porn instead. 

I consider cheating to be when someone's significant other decides to kiss or sleep with someone else. As well as talking/texting constantly. I don't see porn as an issue, unless it's to a point where neither are sleeping together. 

I guess that is a fair way to look at it but it is just not something I have personally ever been comfortable with. I know the percentages are higher for men viewing the stuff than women but not all men and certainly not all women watch it. I think they just get used to it as a habit and it doesn't change even after they enter a relationship. 

[Emma]

In most cases, physical contact has to be involved. Touching beyond a friendly hug would be considered this for me. When it comes to emotional cheating, I think that really depends on the person. Plenty of people in relationships and marriages have crushes on other people. In most cases they are very unattainable but if they are, I think it is important for the couple to talk about boundaries.