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How To Overcome A Fetish


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A fetish is a sexual disorder that many people deal with across the world, and if you have one, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. 

In medical terms, it is referred to as paraphilia, an intense sexual interest in atypical situations and objects. Moreover, it’s quite common that most people who enjoy having sex have some fetish.

However, there is a massive difference between people who like to use objects to enhance their sexual experience and those who can’t get aroused without certain materials. If you belong to the latter category, then maybe it is time to reassess your situation.

Sexual fetishes can lead to a slew of things, including lack of libido, depression, breakups, and even sexual violence, thereby wrecking your life. This is why you should acknowledge it and take steps to overcome it.

Here are a few tips that you can follow to overcome a fetish. 

#1 Access the severity of the fetish: as I mentioned before, it is a very common thing. Many couples engage in sexual fetishes to add spice to their sex life by having sex in unconventional manners by being tied, gagged, or blindfolded. 

That said, if it involves too much aggression, then it’s time to assess the extent of the fetish. Also, you should never ask your partner to engage in activities that they are not comfortable with. 

#2 Consider sex therapy: now, I know that it sounds like overkill, but trust me, it is one of the most effective ways of overcoming a fetish. A therapist specializing in paraphilia can ensure a non-judgmental and knowledgeable approach to psychotherapy. 

They will teach you mindfulness and other techniques that will help you overcome the fetish. So, don’t shy away from consulting a sex therapist.

#3 Don’t objectify your partner: the love between you and your partner is stronger than any sexual fetish. Hence, you should focus on making love to them instead of objectifying them and indulging in fetishes to fulfill your sexual fantasies. If you truly love your partner, the relationship should work without the involvement of weird activities in bed. 

#4 Lower porn consumption: one of the main reasons that give rise to fetishes is that people want to mimic the stuff they see in porn. So, if you are among them, I highly recommend lowering porn consumption. Understand that porn has no connection to reality; whatever fetishes and weird fantasies you see in porn are performed by professional actors. 

Have you had to overcome a fetish? What steps did you take to correct it?

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I never thought of a fetish as a disorder but the more people are becoming "free" with their sexual desires in this world, I can tell you I am beginning to see it that way. A friend of mine dated a guy years back that at a very bad fetish when it came to porn that caused her to leave him. He said he would never act on it in real life but it scared her. He was very much into "rape porn". I hope he got help for it because that doesn't sound like a fetish you should embrace.  

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1 hour ago, EagleEye said:

One thing that comes to mind, what separates a fetish from a kink?

Being kinky should increase the partners pleasure. A fetish replaces that partner and turns them into an object. 

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On 10/13/2021 at 1:39 PM, James said:

Being kinky should increase the partners pleasure. A fetish replaces that partner and turns them into an object. 

I never really thought of the words being different but that makes complete sense! I think this is why a married couple can be kinky but very few married couples have fetishes unless they share the same fetish and object is an outside factor. Still all very weird to me. Maybe I am a prude! LOL

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